Open yourself to knowing only the form love is taking in this moment. When you know that you are fine regardless of whether or not you are in a sexual relationship with zero, one, two or more people you can feel free. Do not cling to what was or what is. Let it be, evolve and become.
Surrender into your own wholeness. Feel its warmth and genuine comfort.
Our sociobiological tendency [is] to believe that wholeness comes in the form of partnership/coupling/tripling, etc.
People do not own each other in any manner.
You’re whole. Love is an expansion of your wholeness.
There is no greater sense of security in a relationship than knowing that your love is not threatened by the presence of more love.
Here are the typical stages of an intimate
relationship:
1. Have sex.
2. Live together.
3. Get married.
4. Have children.
5. Divorce or stay together until death.
Here is my suggestion for a new progression of an intimate
relationship:
1. Learn to experience yourself as whole.
2. Let your lover/s and yourself be free.
3. Continue to love more.
4. Remain unconcerned about the form in which your love manifests itself.
(The order in which these occur is not important.)
In a traditional monogamous relationship you are typically given societal “permission” to:
1. Judge your lover’s desires towards others.
2. Not forgive any “straying” or “cheating” behavior.
3. Attach your sense of wholeness to the other’s behavior.
4. Show compassion unless their behavior threatens your sense of safety.
Excerpts from: Spiritual Polyamory by Mystic Life